Jeans
I didn’t want to hear you say that
as you walked down the hall
next to the girl with the springy hair.
I never again want to hear you say
that you wonder
if you look fat
in those jeans.
Even if the question
was innocent,
and all you wanted was for her
to say “no.”
Which she did,
with a small laugh and a roll of her eyes.
Even though you didn’t intend
for me to hear it,
I heard it.
And what could I possibly say to you?
You with your little denim-clad stork legs
which will only get larger the older you grow?
What I did say was lost, probably,
in a cloud of ranting and raving
about how beautiful you are,
and how you’re ten,
and how you’re too young,
just too young,
and how did it come to this?
I’m sure your face was red,
but you smiled all the same
because I told you
you were beautiful.
(And how did THAT
become the highest compliment
we can possibly give to each other?)
But what could I possibly do
when my heart felt like ash
because I didn’t want you to be like me,
like us?
And you deserve better than this.
You deserve better than us
with our frantic looks in the mirror
and our trying on of seven different outfits
before we consider ourselves presentable
to the light of day.
Sometimes,
I long to be seventy-five,
so I can walk around the world
in soft cotton sweatpants
and sensible shoes
and tell all the young whippersnappers
how beautiful they are,
and how beautiful they still will be
when they get to be my age.
This is really beautiful. It’s so sad to see young girls (or anyone) when they realize how much value is placed on looks and to see them sucked into trying to meet social expectations about image. i know I’m guilty of being the role model in your poem who’s frantically looking in the mirror even though I know how much suffering these misguided beliefs are going to cause little girls. This really makes me think. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you so much! Yes, I am really trying to be the older role model who doesn’t say disparaging things about her body. I hope that I am the same when I am a granny!